HeartSmart

The most important action any parent can take

Children that "download" their parents' emotion dysfunction are at several risks.

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John Heavner
May 29, 2025
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It really got to me.

A few months ago, I was walking through a grocery store when I suddenly heard someone yell, “No! You don’t deserve that!”

Instinctively, I turned my head and saw a clearly upset mom standing next to a grocery cart with her toddler in it. Her face was tight with frustration, and the baby was crying. “Stop it, or we’re going home!” she snapped. I kept walking, but my heart felt heavy.

I couldn’t stop thinking about it. For hours afterward, my mind kept going back to that little one—was this a regular thing for them? The thought made me uneasy, especially because I know what the research says.

Here’s the link: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/01650254211051086

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